You have felt the pleasure of eating chocolate, candy, cup cakes, fries, donuts, icecream or excess of burgers, pizzas or other unhealthy food. Pleasure of relaxing in the sofa watching TV every night. Pleasure of eating the things you love whenever you want. Pleasure of indulging. Pleasure of taking the car instead of walking.
You have been experiencing a lot of pain when it comes to exercising, pain of eating (what you think is) distasteful food, pain of having to deal with the giant pile of problems in your life (leading to depression making you grab for even more food and bad stuff to put in your mouth). Those things have you been avoiding to a large degree and that has made you neglect your health. Maybe you have used food to comfort yourself, to ease some kind of pain. Can you relate to this story?
Get out of your comfort zone
We people tend to take the easy path in life. When something feels scary, hard, way out of our comfort zone, we choose to go for what feels safe and have a short term winning for us, neglecting things that makes us winners in the long run. Again, this is done to avoid the pain.
Success in any field on the other hand is going for what has a long term winning. Success is stretching yourself. Success is growing, doing the things you find uncomfortable and overcoming fears! The hard fact is that if you truly want to lose body fat and keep being lean and fit you have to do things that may feel uncomfortable to you! If you have tried, but failed, you have probably failed because you have been trying to avoid the pain the weight loss endeavor caused you.
If you want to succeed you have to break the bad habits, and change what you link pleasure and pain to. If you find it painful to exercise, you have to change that in order to be more healthy. You will have to find a way to discover that exercising means empowerment, fun and pleasure for you. If you link lots of pleasure to eating snacks and sugar, you have to change that. Otherwise you won’t be able to make lasting changes! If you hate exercising, but do it anyway for some weeks, you will most likely stop doing it after a short period of time as exercise is something that you have linked negative emotions to. The same goes with foods. You may stop eating bad foods for some time, but you will go back to eating them as you feel that you refrain from all the good stuff and that you are making a sacrifice.
It’s important that you don’t feel that you’re making sacrifices. You must work with yourself to change how you feel about eating the food that made you fat. Your must make a life style change if you want to loose weight for life. If you see you weight loss effort as a limited time starve yourself experiment, hoping to lose all unwanted weight but after that period of time suddenly stops, you’ll start a career as a yo-yo dieter.